Do you recall going out on your first date? Weren't you so excited that it took you hours preparing yourself because you w anted to look your best? You tried changing many times looking for the right clothes to wear, back and forth in the mirror until finally you felt great, all set to go and in perfect shape.

How many wives have said that they had a waistline of 22 or 24 in their wedding gown. But over the years they just started to get out of shape especially after having babies. They want to dress comfortably at home with their house dress. They get lazy and don't bother to look good for their spouses. They start to get symptoms feeling low snappy irritable. What's their comment on this? They reply "I'm already married and he or she loves me the way I am." or "He or she has to accept me, for better or for worse"

However, there are still many spouses who complain about this because they want their partners to look attractive. They want to show off their dashing partner to their friends.

We have watched shows on the topic of "make over". In these shows, they ask someone in the street if they could give them a make over and after, they surprise the spouse of this person. We have seen the amazing changes plus the joy of the spouse how attractive his or her partner has become. Their partners have commented that they have been wishing for their spouse to wear more stylish clothes and newer hairstyle but just couldn't convince them. They even hint of the need to go on a first health 2b weight management. It came to the point that symptoms feeling low snappy irritable brought frictions to their marriage.

Your outward appearance is also a reflection of your attitude. For example, being sloppy means you don't care what the other says as long as that's how you you feel about it including the symptoms of feeling low snappy irritable. If how you look is important for your spouse, do something about it to make him or her happy. Although this may be a flimsy reason for your partner to get attracted to potential relationships outside, this could be your fault too, unintentional as it may be. This can also be a factor that can create an unhappy relationship

A helpful tip is to have in mind that to love is always to think of the other. Be excited to meet your spouse as if it is always the first time you met or your first date. With that, you will also be excited to dress well for him or her. And when there is excitement, it enhances the relationship and will totally remove those symptoms feeling low snappy irritable.

If you think you are getting out of shape, work on it before it gets worse, get some exercise and watch your diet. You might want to work on a first health 2b weight management. Get yourself some nice and inexpensive clothes and stop wearing those loose house clothes.

You definitely would want to receive nice compliments from friends too like "My, you haven't changed" or "You're always looking great" When you look great, you feel great !

Keep looking great for your spouse!

About the Author

Ted and Christine Segura have been involved in the topic of relationships and are in an organization that helps couples and families in the areas of family life and enhancing relations. Go to www.idealfamilylife.com